A Life Update – Divorce, health, the kids and big plans

It’s been a while since I did a general up date and, if you’re a regular reader, you’ll see it’s been a while since I posted much at all. A lot has been going on, and not all of it great, so I thought it was a good time to do a life update.

I think the obvious starter is in the title – I’m part way through getting divorced. Gosh it seems odd writing that to such a, potentially, wide audience but I feel like it’s necessary especially considering any older readers will have seen posts about the wedding, or even us moving in together. I don’t want to go in to a lot of detail, it’s our business, but it’s been the expected levels of difficult and there’s a long way to go to adapt to life as a single parent again. But family and friends have been utterly wonderful, the kids are worth it all, and there’s an awful lot to look forward to in pretty much every aspect of our lives.

Life update - family photo, woman in red lipstick and two smiling children

Health wise not a lot has happened. In my last post I explained that I’ve been diagnosed with PoTS and this past few months I’ve been trialling lots of different medications but, thus far, they’ve either not helped or have had awful side effects. I’m seeing my Dr next week so I’ll find out what happens next.

I had my hearing test, my hearing is below average but not bad enough to be classed as hearing loss and not enough to get help. My GP says I may have Meniere’s disease but she wouldn’t want me to be on the medication that it requires so there’s not much point going any further with that yet. I saw Maxillofacial and they did a lip biopsy, the results came back inconclusive and they wanted to do another but I said no as the last one wasn’t great. So I’m waiting to see what my Rheumatologist says about that. Pain management was awful. Everything is still very up in the air which is frustrating, hopefully more progress soon.

The kids are equal amounts of wonderful and exhausting. Ethan’s really settled in to Junior school and his reading and spelling has come on so incredibly well. Oliver has changed, entirely, since my last post and is a hilarious little boy with an amazing sense of humour. Getting used to it just being me and them has been tricky for all of us but they’ve been great, for the most part (we all have our off days).

Lastly I just want to touch on plans. I have a lot of plans for the next year and more going forward. This year is the year that we get the house sorted – Now that this is our forever home (still owning with my parents and that’s perfect right now) a lot of work needs to happen to make it more suitable for three generations to live together. Things are a bit squiffy at the moment but over the coming months we’ll, hopefully, have work starting on getting the house extended and getting the kids and I our own space which will be heavenly.

I, very much, want to keep plodding along with the blog but I will, hopefully, be putting a lot of my attention in to another big project. I’ve said it before but this year really is the year for my first novel. I have never, ever, been so motivated so I am going to take full advantage of that – I would like the book to be written and, at least, partially edited by the middle of next year. I hope that that’s a realistic goal considering my new status as disabled single parent – Fingers very crossed but I finally feel like this, is, it.

Have any of you had any big life changes? Good or bad are both equally valid. 

 

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  1. Christine April 4, 2018 / 8:09 am

    Massive change in the last year in May 2017 I was in London for a course for work when I had a massive stroke fast forward throug 7 months in hospital or rehab and I’m just about walking with a quad stick my poor family have been so supportive I am very lucky to have them but life has changed beyond recognition we are strong and can survive.

    • Petit Moi - Big World April 4, 2018 / 2:09 pm

      What a wonderful family you have – I hope that your recovery continues and that life becomes more manageable for you

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